Learning how to live is a life long process. It starts from our first breath when our living was dependent on other more competent people. Then as we grow older we start realizing we have opinions and a voice. This works better for some than others.
As we grow older we are shaped by other people’s hands, much like a ball of clay. The artist, often our parents, take us and shape us to their liking. They color us in their palette choice. And we follow along because we know no other way. We become shaped by their hands and their belief in what they think is best for us.
We then age out of dependency and follow along in a life full of other people who have also been formed by other’s hands. We are a sea of unknowing people trying to find our place in the world.
Then we get to a point where we look in the mirror and don’t recognize what we see. What is before us looks totally different than what we feel on the inside. This is when we know it’s time to shatter our outer layer and find out who we really are and what we look like.
Learning to live.
How does one learn how to live from a place of complete control and power? It starts with understanding our needs. Where is the need coming from? Is it truly a need that comes from within? This is a very important step. We must be sure that what we seek is about us and not from some outside source we are trying to conform to. True living can only come from within.
- Ask yourself who am I? (this takes a lot of introspection and often confusion, but that’s fine, just let it marinate)
- What do I like?
- If I could do anything in the world, what would it be?
- When I wake up in the morning who I am doing things for? Myself or others?
- Do I tend to let myself be guided by other people’s expectations and needs of me?
Learning to live starts with conscious awareness of what you’re doing and why you’re doing them.
Learning to live means making conscious decisions. What does conscious decisions mean? It means being aware of why you are doing each and every thing in your day. It means understanding that you are making the choices in your life. Even if you are living under another person’s guidance or expectations you are choosing to live this way.
This is definitely a hard one for a lot of people to take in, that yes, you are allowing your life to unfold as it is unfolding right this minute. If it doesn’t feel good, if it doesn’t bring you joy then it’s time to make different choices.
Learning to Live means living as you are meant to live. You are no longer reliant as you were as a child. You have been given the gift of free will. Don’t take this lightly. Use your will to Live the life of your dreams.
Now ask yourself, “How am I going to live?”
Much Love Beautiful Friend ❤️