What if I told you that most of what you think about yourself and of life were given to you by other people? Would it make you what to reassess your life up to this point and possibly take control of YOUR life?
Do you hear other people’s voices in your head;
- You’re not good enough.
- You need to loose weight.
- You’re not smart enough.
- You don’t make enough money.
- You don’t know how to just be happy.
You take these voices and you make them real. You start believing them. You start living them. You can’t see any other version of you than the version created by others since your earliest of days.
Do you want to know something? You don’t have to live this reality. If the voices of others plague you it is because you have given them entry into your thoughts.
You have allowed others opinions of you to become you.
You have the key though. You are the ultimate decider of what thoughts you allow to permeate your being and which ones to keep out.
If someone’s actions make you feel that you are not good enough it is only you who brings them into fruition.
You are 100% responsible for how you feel. Let me repeat that,
you are 100% responsible for how you feel.
No one but you is to blame for your feelings of self worth.
If someone flat out tells you that you are a horrible tennis player. The only thing that makes this true for you is if you internalize it.
If someone tells you that you are fat, the only thing that makes this true is if you allow it to enter your thoughts and take seed.
This may be hard to grasp especially for people who are living a reality given to them at an early age. I speak with many people who are holding on to stories from their childhood about not feeling good enough. They remember scenarios of being neglected, not getting “good enough” grades, not feeling pretty enough. And you know what? They have taken these stories and let them grow into reality. How? By continually watering their thought seeds with others beliefs.
I mean I remember an instance when I was probably 10 and my mother told me I had a booger in my nose. She told me out of kindness before leaving the house but still I felt almost crushed. Like she was insulting me. This simple instance has stuck with me. I let it grow into being by watering it with my fear and thoughts of being not good enough, an embarrassment, even unattractive.
Ridiculous right? I mean even today if this same thing happened to me I would be embarrassed, self conscious and more. But, why? In the big picture this reflects nothing of my being. I mean a booger! We all have them. Even now writing to you I feel a bit self conscious sharing such a thing.
No more. I will not allow this seed to grow any longer. I will take responsibility for my thoughts and not put the responsibility or blame on others. I choose my thoughts. I choose how to feel about myself.
But what if there is someone in your life actually telling you that you are fat or ugly or a failure?
You are still responsible for making those sayings a reality. You can choose to make them a reality or you can squash them immediately and not let them ever enter your thought process.
Taking control of your thoughts is huge. Once you become aware that every thought you have the good, the bad and the ugly is a choice then you can take the steps to choose to only allow the good into your consciousness and therefore your reality.
How do you start? First off, simply by becoming conscious of your thoughts. Take note of your thoughts throughout the day.
When you look in the mirror, what are your thoughts saying? Where did they come from? Are you going to choose to water those thoughts? Are there new thoughts you are willing to replace with the old?
Taking control and responsibility for your thoughts will set you on a path of conscious control of your direction in life.
Stop allowing other people to take the lead. Choose for yourself what your reality will be.
Your thoughts are completely in your control.
What reality are you living today that has come from allowing other people to penetrate your thoughts?