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High Conflict Divorce and Custody Coaching

What does a High Conflict Divorce Coach do? A high conflict divorce pertains to any divorce or subsequent custody issues that arise with a high conflict individual. A high conflict coach helps navigate divorce, child custody, and co-parenting issues with a High Conflict Individual. High Conflict Individuals tend to have distorted thoughts, emotions, actions, and reactions. They often see themselves as the victim and do not react well to anything they feel could negatively impact other people’s perceptions of them. They are usually determined to keep the conflict going, even covertly, to remain in control. High Conflict Individuals often seek revenge and prolong the divorce and custody process in an attempt to punish the other party in the divorce.

Divorce and custody coaching can help you:

• Better understand your priorities

• Navigate the language and intent of HCI

• Strategize your case

• Help to manage and support your emotions

• Successfully co-parent with HCI

Hi. My name is Rebecca and I’ll be helping you out today.

I am a certified High Conflict Divorce Coach working to help people navigate divorce, custody, and post separation abuse with a high conflict co-parent. I am also a family court advocate, advocating for children’s rights and their right to be heard.
Learning how to effectively communicate in a co-parenting situation with a high conflict individual takes skill and understanding yet is critical for a case’s successful outcome. I help develop a sound strategy to better navigate the court system with knowledge and power. I will become your support system, helping you to find the tools and solutions needed to have the most success possible. I will help you strategize your case from a fresh perspective and see things without the fear and doubt you have been plagued with up until now. I will work closely with you to help you reclaim your voice and power while helping you rebuild and maintain your boundaries.

This is a journey you should not and do not need to take alone.

I have also worked closely with national organizations like Custody Peace, Center for Judicial Excellence, and Stop Abuse Campaign. I am doing all I can to ensure the safety of children and will not stop until all children are protected.

Healing and Coping

Welcome to the wonderful world of living.

Life is full of beauty and chaos woven into a tapestry of our many stories.
Some days feel light and conquerable and others feel heavy and so darn frustrating. Our stories define who we are at this moment and for the most part how our days will go; from the moment we put our feet on the ground until we shut our eyes at the end of the day.

What most of us are struggling with is surviving the in between. Many of us live with the doing, not realizing how the doing or choices we make are affecting our lives. We’re often stuck in a rut and sustaining off the energy of surviving. What we miss while surviving though is the living, the good stuff.

We’re often confused and unsatisfied. We’re living on autopilot with very little gas to dream and desire. What many of us don’t know is that we’re stuck in our past stories that have created the mold in which we are currently living.

Many of us live in the shadows of our stories. We have suffered trauma or abuse, the big kind and the small kind. We feel heavy and unmotivated. We feel hopeless and tired. We feel scared and anxious.

Through all this though, there is hope. There is a way out of the darkness and unfulfilled days. It starts with facing our shadows. It starts with listening within and letting our stories out. It’s a process that is very much attainable.

Healing takes action every day over a long period of time.

Healing is a beautiful mix of pain and sunshine. It is the exposing of wounds that have not yet been healed. It is finding these wounds and treating them with understanding, care, and love.

What I want you to know is that you have the power to heal. You have the right to live in peace, in joy, and in immense LOVE. It is your birthright.

I ask that you open up to this belief, that you allow me to stand beside you and support you on this journey. You are not alone. You have never been alone. Break free from the worry and the doubt and open up to Joy, Calm, and Peace that is waiting to meet you at the other end of your healing journey.

Healing takes time and is sped up with support. Your body supports you, your mind supports you, your spirit supports you, and people support you. I support you.

Testimonials

I began working with Rebecca a few months into my separation. At the time, I was swimming in PTSD symptoms as a result of eight years of dealing with my abusive ex-husband. I was completely lost in a sea of lawyers and therapists that did not understand and sometimes re-traumatized me by forcing me to field accusations of alienation, and of being “over-dramatic.” I was constantly terrified of what would happen to my daughter and I as I tried to extricate us from his abuse. Once I started reaching out in my state OMB group, and reading the responses from Rebecca, I knew I had finally found someone that truly understood the impact of coercive control and the family court minefield.

For the first time I didn’t have to over-explain what was happening because Rebecca had the experience to understand, and the tools to help me de-escalate my ex and gain some breathing room to form a strategy. With her help, I was able to focus less on reacting to my ex and spend that time and energy locating effective lawyers and therapists – not an easy task. I was also able to work on my mental health and PTSD triggers so I could be the mom I needed to be for my daughter. Without her help, I would not have been able to get to where I am today, an abuse survivor who no longer lives in fear, with primary custody of my daughter, and the ability to hope for our futures.

Annonymous Client (Virginia)

Brilliant. That is the word I use most frequently to describe Rebecca. This information is not taught anywhere. So much of her wisdom goes against how you think things should work in the court system. It is a totally different way of thinking about things. Her network of contacts for referrals for therapists, consultants, and parenting coordinators, etc is vast. She single-handedly changed the trajectory of my court battle.

If you are at all on the fence, thinking, “What difference can a  High Conflict Divorce Coach make?” They make all the difference. Do it. Make the investment. The ROI for you and your kids is invaluable. You will not regret the decision. You will hang up from your first meeting with Rebecca and think, “This woman is BRILLIANT

Annonymous Client (New Mexico)

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